Lie, whatever you do, lie:
The addict uses Out Words and Out Phrases like: probably, possibly, maybe, would, could, should, I would like to, I want to, I need to. These out words and mean nothing to the addict. Out Words-words you use to get you out of uncomfortable situations. The rest of the words that follow the out words sound good, but almost always lead to disappointment. Addicts use every line against every of their interactions, every relationship.
The smallest things are exaggerated importance or disasters:
Self is the worldview of an addict. And when self is your worldview, then every little thing about you is important to you, and you believe it should be to everyone else. As areas of an addict’s life declines they will often try to gain some control by focusing their attention on a trivial matters and take it to an extreme. The amazing thing is that glaring problems will often be ignored, while every effort and emotion is spent upon the smallest issues. They must attend to the insignificant thing now, but suddenly they must turn their attention away from that thing and toward another. Addicts just make countless messes while dealing with minor every day issues.
No limitations:
You cannot put limitations on an addict, because they do not like to be told what to do. Rules do not apply to them, nor do they possess self-discipline. While an addict will progressively drink/use more frequently and in larger amounts, they seem to know their magic limits and others do not. They seem to know what they can or cannot do and others do not. So get off of their back.
Self-pity:
The continual victim of life, the addict wallows in self-pity. Unwanted events are regularly declared as unfair and people are targeting them. They can also become drama queens declaring themselves as a bad person who does not deserve to be happy or paid attention to. Addicts can state that they are unworthy to love someone or be loved by others. The internal struggle of self-worth can overwhelm them.
Self-entitled:
Addicts will require an extraordinary amount of time-consuming attention from family, friends, and even strangers. They believe that somehow that their life is more stressful, demanding, or difficult than others, which gives them the right to demand others complete devotion. Addicts believe that people should stop their lives or change their behavior to benefit their lives. The more they demand from you the less they give of themselves.
Manipulators:
Addicts are the master’s con artists. The small con or big con it does not matter as long as they can use you for their benefit. They play with your emotions causing you to feel sorry for them, make you believe things are your fault, or you have you certain that you have disappointed them in some way. The whole time looking for an angle on how to get something from you. Manipulation is one thing they do especially well.
Survive by emotions:
"I feel it, therefore it is so." If an Addict feels like a failure, then they are a failure. If they feel you hate them, then you hate them. Whatever they feel to be true, is true.
Blame every one for everything:
An addict’s wrong decisions, loss of jobs, bad relationships, and etc. was someone else’s fault. Famous blames are: parent’s divorce, physical, sexual, verbal abuse, bad boss, undeserved punishment, unreasonable spouse, and ungrateful people. Their horrible job/spouse/kids justify their every action.